Research on expatriation over past decades has shown repeatedly that the most common reason for the failure or "brownout" of a global assignee is the high dissatisfaction of his or her spouse or partner with the day-to-day experience of living abroad. This is especially true if the spouse or partner was employed back home, but cannot be employed abroad.
Extremely dissatisfied children can also bring an assignee's time abroad to a premature end.
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Cross-Cultural Adaptation Coaching for Spouses
The unfailing tradition at GROVEWELL is that all international assignee coaching and training includes ample attention to the spouse or partner, whether female or male. Our coaching workshops always include sections devoted to the spouse. We pay special attention to the characteristic challenges of non-employed spouses, and to their strategies for adaptation and eventual satisfaction with living abroad.
In addition to these spouse-oriented portions of our standard family workshops, we also provide, on request, supportive services solely for spouses and partners as individuals, or in small groups. These training, coaching, or mentoring services are specially tailored for the particular individual, small group, or situation in question.
What GROVEWELL's associates bring to their work with spouses and partners are...
- understanding of the challenges they face, based on a well-established research base;
- the direct personal experience of the coach or trainer as a former expat spouse or partner;
- commitment to assist spouses and partners to be as effective and satisfied in their non-employed roles as their husbands, wives, or partners are in their professional roles; and
- ability to mentor those spouses and partners who are able to secure employment in the host country.
A unsolicited testimonial from an Indian assignee in the U.S. reads in part as follows...
"We [Mr. Bhanushali and his wife] would like to thank you for an excellent [two-session] workshop, "Gateway to the USA." We went to this workshop with a lot of inhibition, but looking back I can say that this was the most useful workshop I ever attended. It just changed our lives in the U.S.
"The first workshop, which addressed our transition to U.S. culture, was outstanding. The second transformed our personal relationship and helped us to understand each other and cope with the changes that [the wife] was facing. Moreover, it insured my professional success.
"The program for [their young daughter] was fantastic...."
Amar Bhanushali, Johnson & Johnson
Cross-Cultural Adaptation Coaching for Children & Youth
GROVEWELL's experience suggests that the coaching of globally mobile children and adolescents – often called Third Culture Kids or TCKs – is best delivered by certain rare individuals who have a passion and a "gift" for this type of work. So at GROVEWELL we are ever alert to find such individuals, male as well as female.
Children's coaching may be provided for one or more children who are members of a single family and are between the ages of 5 and 19.
This coaching is a full day engagement. It is delivered in the parent's home or apartment while at least one of the parents is at home. As the day draws to a close, our children's coach spends up to an hour with the parent(s), reviewing the children's adaptation challenges and suggesting beneficial approaches and activities for parental support.
Children's coaching is separately arranged and separately invoiced. However, it is typical for the children's coaching to occur during the same day as the parents' cross-cultural coaching, which means that two GROVEWELL coaches are simultaneously engaged in the assignee's home.